“Wish you weren’t my dad”
“I don’t want to see you”
“I don’t want to have anything to do with you”
What is the Upward Spiral?
Before answering that question, from working with well over 500 fathers I have seen the patterns that take place when a father loses contact with his kids. This is a fire that rips through his life and something that he has never been prepared for.
Some fathers have described this as mourning the death of their child while they are still alive. This ripples into many areas of their life, starting with sleep – either unable to, or sleep way too much. To help with sleep, some resort to drinking or sleeping tablets. Exercise gets placed on the “I will get back to this shortly” list and before they know it, 6 months have passed.
The feelings of regret, overwhelm, anger for some, and uncertainty when they will see their kids again often start to affect work, relationships, and on and on.
The Upward Spiral is exactly that, the upward spiral in your life. This focuses on the 100k Life Pillars. Not just rebuilding, but often taking these pillars to a level you have never experienced before.
“Finding 100k fathers has helped get me through one of the darkest most unexpected tragedies a father will ever face, and that is having his children removed. The support, wisdom, and experience shared in this group has enlightened and guided me to a more positive and hopeful place that someday things will turn around and when they do I will be ready” Tyler
What is 100k Fathers?
100k Fathers is not about being the victim with focussing your time and energy thinking about what role your ex has taken in you not seeing your kids or potentially how she has influenced your kids so they start saying they don’t want to spend time with you.
This is about preparing you for the time in the future when you will have the first phone call or meeting with your kid/s. Are you ready for those difficult questions and volatile emotions?
There are many common but often unknown mistakes that fathers make that can easily push your kids away from you during these initial interactions.
There are very few options available to a father to reunite with his kids. Most often advice provided to the father is to not give up and to fight this in court.
If you look up the definition of “fight”, the result will look something like “a violent confrontation or struggle.” or “to contend in battle or physical combat especially: to strive to overcome a person by blows or weapons” The outcome is always one and often both parties lose (Except for the lawyers).
My question is, what are you wanting to achieve and what does success look like with you and your kids?
Do you want to see your kids through court ordered 50/50? Well, this is possible but at what cost? How sustainable will your relationship be with your kids when they are forced to see you? A judge cannot make your kids love you.
Reuniting with your kids takes a few stages. We see success as your kids wanting you to see you and then together spending quality and meaningful time as a guardian and mentor in their lives.
This is a journey where you will realize your full potential as a father and a man through building the pillars in your life and turning your life into an incredible upward spiral.
Our mission is to reunite 100,000 fathers with their kids.
- Preparing for first contact with your kid/s
- To help you strengthen your relationship with your kid/s and avoid many pitfalls and mistakes that fathers make
- Becoming the best version of yourself as a man and a father
- A strategy to stick with to keep from doing more harm to your children
- Become more resilient to deal with future challenges
- Releasing the burden on your family and friends that cannot help you – to set them free
- Help you to let go of the anger that does not serve you
- Showing you how to feel happy without feeling guilty
- Reconnecting with your family and friends that you pushed away out of shame and not wanting to be a burden to them
- Tools and shift in mindset to help you sleep better at night
- Forgive yourself for past mistakes
- A counterintuitive solution to a counterintuitive problem
- Become unstuck!
- These are just a few of the outcomes of our Upward Spiral Foundations Program
- Personal 1-1 guidance over 8 weeks with a father who has experienced losing contact with his kids
- Access to an exclusive and private global community of alienated and separated fathers
- Group calls with the fathers
- Group calls with experts
- Extensive library of interviews with experts, fathers, grandfathers and alienated kids
- Access to the 100k Life Pillars
- You will get out of the program what you put in. Nobody can force you to make the changes in your life that will lead you to a healthier place. We can show you that path, but only you can choose to walk it.
- We are not licensed, mental health professionals. We are all fathers that have vast experience with losing contact with our children due to a sequence of life events and/or parental alienation
- We don’t offer any guarantees or make any false promises that you will reconnect with your children
- We don’t have a magic pill or easy button for you to solve this problem
- We do not provide any legal support or advice
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“Garry and the group of men at 100k Fathers have made me more resilient through education on the steps I need to take to navigate through this troubling time without succumbing to the downward spiral that can grip us when we are in crisis. It has been a long time since I have felt that even if my daughter decides at some point in the future to cut off all contact, I will have this supportive group of Fathers to lean on, continue to learn from, and grow to be the best version of myself for when she comes back to me. I will be forever grateful for the lessons I have learned, the stories I have heard and the lessons I have yet to learn as a member of 100k Fathers.” David
Become the man and father that you would want your kids to meet in the future
Become the man and father that you would want your kids to meet in the future
If you resonate with 100k Fathers, I would like to offer you a call to find out if our 8-week program and community may be a good fit to help and support you.
“The best thing was working toward being ready for this moment. If I was still as depressed as I had been, or not taking care of myself physically, mentally, spiritually and financially, I would have had nothing to offer my son when he wanted to live with me. If I would not have been well, I would not have been in a position to have any grace, patience, understanding and love that I believe I am giving him. I do think this experience is making me an even better father than I could have imagined. I am so grateful to this group for the support and encouragement that I have received. Having been alienated from my father by my mother when I was a kid, I saw the signs and knew I needed help. 100k fathers have been a Godsend! I know there is still a journey ahead of me and ultimately healing and forgiveness, but today I just feel blessed.” Scott
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